Monkey See, Porn Star Do
Okay, stay with me here! Pick some feminist porn that makes you feel empowered and horny, grab your partner, and queue it the fuck up. As you're watching, you each get to pick one sex thing that looked hot to you from the vid. Then, try out your picks IRL. Maybe you'll discover you're just not flexible enough to make it work, or maybe you'll find your new go-to position. Roll the dice!
Tear It Up
Your clothes, of course. Ever wanted to have bodice-ripping sex but love all your clothes too much? Buy some super-duper cheap tank tops and tell your partner they are free — and encouraged — to destroy them. Bonus points if they tear them off your body with their teeth. You were never gonna wear it again, anyway.
House Party
The rules are simple: no one orgasms until you've boned in every room of the house.
Strip Scrabble
Like regular Scrabble, except you can ONLY spell out dirty words. None of that "qi" bullshit. Every time your partner gets a point, you have to remove an item of clothing. And vice versa, because fair is fair.
Toy Time Tease
Find a sex toy store that feels positive and comfortable. Then, plan a visit a week or two before a special occasion like a birthday or anniversary. Peruse the aisles together and pick one item that the two of you can't wait to try together. Maybe it's a vibrator for you, a toy for him, or something a little more out there. Bring it home and make a rule that you won't use it until that special occasion. Now, enjoy the wait. Think about how good it will feel, let it be part of your dirty talk, whatever gets you pumped. It'll feel like Christmas morning for everyone when you finally get to unwrap your gift.
The Position Challenge
See how many different sex positions you can fit into a single sex sesh before you finish. (This is a great way to make sex last longer in general, btw). Each time you set a new record, see if you can top it. You might just discover you new favorite move.
Everything But
Stretch your idea of what you consider sex. Try getting busy without any kind of penetration. Concentrate on how kissing feels on different parts of your body, think about all the ways you can touch each other that don't involve vaginal intercourse, and get out of that "penis + vagina = sex" headspace that prevents people from exploring other sexy alternatives.
Raunchy Retail Therapy
Visit a sex shop or lingerie store together, and tell your partner they can pick one thing they want to see you wear, no questions as asked. Give them an allowance to spend so they stay in your budget, and because you are a grown ass woman who #TreatsHerself. Don't let them show you what they bought until you get home from the shopping trip. Enjoy watching their jaw drop as they see you walk out in their fantasy get-up.
XXX Marks the Spot
This is like a "guess that number" but with a spot on your body. You keep one particular spot in mind and he has to kiss every part of your body until he guesses correctly. It's up to you if you want to be honest and tell him he hit the right spot, or let him keep guessing.
Do as I Say
Make yourself a DIY dungeon master by whipping out a feather duster and a silk tie as arm restraints. BONUS: for the entirety of your "session," you can only use Christian's and Ana's quotes from Fifty Shades of Grey. He's Ana.
Strip-Pong
Set up your dining room table like a beer-pong table, but skip the brew: Arrange six 16-ounce plastic cups in a triangle shape at either end of the table, and grab some ping-pong balls. You'll stand at one end of the table, with your guy at the other. Then take turns trying to throw a ping-poll ball into the cups at the opposite end of the table from you. When one of you scores, the other has to remove that cup … and a piece of clothing. The first person to land a ball in all six cups gets to request a sexual favor of their choice.
Pick a Card, Any Card
Start with a deck of cards and assign each suit a different sexy meaning: hearts represent kissing, diamonds equal a massage, clubs are manual stimulation, and spades mean oral. Take turns picking cards from the stack and treating each other to the sexy move you draw. The numbers on the cards represent how long you have to do each action — so if you get the nine of diamonds, he has to give you a sensual rubdown for nine seconds. If he picks the ace of clubs, you give him a one-second hand-job (boo, but hey, that's the way the cards were dealt).
Not So Fast
Lie naked in bed and have your guy stand at the doorway to the bedroom. Test how well he knows you by asking him questions about yourself — they can range from sexy (what's your favorite position) to personal (name your dream vacation spot). For each correct answer, he gets to move one step closer to you; if he's wrong, he takes a step back. Once he correctly answers enough questions to reach the bed, go at it. The teasing aspect will drive up his lust, and he'll also learn new things about you.
Seven Minutes in Heaven
Seven Minutes in Heaven is a step up from Spin the Bottle, but now that you're not in braces in your parent's basement, why not make it even dirtier? Set the kitchen timer for seven minutes and then hop in the coat closet together for a torrid quickie. The timer creates a sense of urgency, and the small, dark space makes it feel like you're doing something forbidden — so hot.
Reality Show
You know how you and your guy watch a show together and you really want your favorite characters to have sex? Make it happen in your bed! Doing this bit of specific role play involving the characters you can't wait to just bone already actually boning already via your boning? Perfection.
Marco, Pol-Ohhhh
The classic pool game is about to get hot as hell. The next time you're by yourselves in the water, close your eyes, then head in the direction of your guy by following the sound of his voice. Once you catch him, pull your bathing suit bottom aside and go at it.
Dare or Dare
Play a game of Truth or Dare, with very little truth involved. Dares can include things like:
Talk dirty to me for 20 minutes. Kiss me without using your hands to touch any other body parts (though he'll want to). Sext me while you're at work at least once an hour.
It's up to you if you want to keep daring him, or let him take a turn at daring you.
Orgasm Race
Lie side-by-side naked in bed and begin pleasuring yourselves. Whoever comes first gives the other person manual or oral stimulation until they reach the finish line too. The "winner" gets to request a sexy treat next time. (Relationship bonus: Masturbating in front of each other can draw you closer — because it's normally something you do when you're alone, allowing another person to watch you makes you feel vulnerable, heightening the intimacy between you.)
This Is So Wrong
Don't risk full on public sex, but do test the limits of how kinky you can get outside of your apartments with low-key things like:
1. Hooking up at in your friend's bathroom at a house party.
2. Hook up with the door open while your roommate is home.
3. Put your hand on his crotch while you're in a crowded elevator just to give him an idea of what you want to do later.
The Mirror Game
Both of you strip down and sit facing each other on the bed. One of you begins to touch, kiss, and lick different areas of the other's body, and the other person has to simultaneously touch, kiss, and lick that in exactly the same way as closely as possible. This is also a great way to show your partner how you like to be touched and honestly it's hot as hell.
Mystery Toy
Blindfold your guy naked on the bed and then tease him all over using a series of sexy objects — caress his penis with a silky thong or a simple feather. Have him try to guess what you're stroking him with, and don't move onto the next object until he gets it right.
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